“Romantic love is one of those rare human endeavors that succeeds best when it requires the least effort. Those who pursue it the hardest are the most likely to fail.”
We all want to be loved. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t long for the touch of another, for someone to care about us so deeply that they would do anything to keep us happy. If you have already felt the love and grace of God, then you realize that we all already have it in our lives. But we also want the love of another individual, someone to whom we can one day marry.
So we search everywhere, looking for a love we cannot seem to grasp. We look and we find, but maybe that love isn’t the love we want. And so we continue on, breaking hearts and getting our own broken as well. Some never have the opportunity to get further than a broken heart from afar. They make the effect and get destroyed; sometimes the destroyer never even knows. After all, everybody plays the fool.
It’s easy to fall in love, but it’s hard when the other does not always feel the same way. There is no way to force a person to like you and sometimes the result is a ruined relationship. Sometimes we don’t even realize how we ruined it, it just happens. Just remember that while you may be crying now, next time around, someone will be crying over you.
It also helps to keep in perspective that you don’t fall into love, you grow into love. You must first start with a friendship that must be watered and nurtured. If you move too fast, you may break the relationship before it gets to where you want it to be. When you overwater a plant, it never grows, or it dies. The same is true with a relationship. The faster you water (or move) the faster it will slowly dwindle down to nothing.
“Genuine love is an expression of the deepest appreciation for another human being. It is an awareness of his or her needs, and character. It shares the longings, hopes, and dreams of that other person.”
You must first respect someone before you can love them. If you don’t have respect for someone that you are “dating” how can you expect to ever truly love them? The first place most relationships fail is when they don’t understand or respect each other. If you lose trust in your partner, you will have to work to gain back the trust and respect that relationship craves.
“If you hold love too loosely, then it files away; if you hold love too tightly, it’ll die. It’s one of the mysteries of life.”
Don’t cling to love once you find it, but let it grow. Watch it, but don’t choke it. Be careful with the ones you love because when you strangle them, they will never want to be around you again.
“We crave what we can’t attain, but we disrespect what we can’t escape.”
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